Behind Every Great Woman There’s a Fabulous Gay Man: Advice from a Guy Who Gives It To You Straight

A gay man who wants women to feel great, look great and find love, Singleton is hilarious and hard-hitting. A little Queer Eye and a little Sex and the City, his self-help book makes 21st-century dating sound like snorkeling among sharks. You need a gay male friend, Singleton suggests, for his fierce loyalty and honesty, and as a guide to help you screen the metrosexuals and avoid the “seagull daters” (a.k.a., “a man who flies over you, looks better from a distance, swoops in, makes a lot of noise, craps on everything and then leaves”). Dating successfully, Singleton writes, requires women to embolden their style (“Don’t Blend In. Stand Out!”), behave smartly and carefully evaluate the respectfulness of their suitors. He prescribes “location, location” as a tonic to nights lost looking for eligible men in dysfunctional Cheers hangouts. Try pool halls, golf courses, adventuring clubs, continuing education, church and, yes, work. Despite some stereotypical depictions of astute gay men sharing their creativity with mixed up, fashion-blind gals, Singleton’s wisdom goes beyond his marketing specialist credentials. With humor, tact and compassion, he proposes ways to overcome the more stultifying aspects of women’s hardwiring, like their tendency to channel their “inner good girl” halfway through a hot fling. “Women overestimate the evil of men’s motives. You think men are acting awful when in fact they are just clueless and apathetic,” he points out in a section about pre- date anxiety. Elsewhere, he reassures readers, “You can be happy on your own.” A quick read with usually good advice and succinctly coined phrases for every modern dating situation, this book is plain fun. (Apr.)

Most straight women out there will admit that it is their gay male friends who have taught them the most about men and relationships. After years of comforting and guiding female friends on their paths to love, Dave Singleton puts his stories to paper as he shares his sound advice to straight women all over the world. Step aside, Carrie Bradshaw.

For any slightly neurotic or fragile single woman who has endured the somewhat emotionally jarring and confronting read about what men really think in 2004’s He’s Just Not That Into You – written by a straight man and endorsed by Oprah – Singleton’s sentiment should be a comforting one.This is also a sentiment that sets the expectation bar high for a book that articulates and encapsulates the benefits of a straight girl/gay boyfriend relationship, to which Singleton gives an excellent perspective.This relationship is far more expansive than the stereotype of a co-dependent duo with a common interest in fashion, Madonna and men. For instance, Singleton’s idea that gay men and straight women who are considering alternatives to marriage and babies are both social pioneers who sometimes need to hold each other’s hands for support as they map their lives outside of traditional convention or expectation is a profound one.So, does the actual advice given by Singleton live up to its powerful social philosophies? Admittedly, much of the advice is hardly groundbreaking, and because the book covers so many topics, there is at times no room for Singleton to elaborate on what he is saying. However, the weaker parts of the book are saved by humour. Lists such as ‘The 10 Things Only Your Gay Best Friend Needs to Know’ and horror stories of suburban bowl cuts and Mr. Wrongs are genuinely funny.Ultimately, this is a book that deserves to be read because it is an important recognition of the straight woman/gay man relationship. Its ability to jump refreshingly between the light-hearted and the profound with the turn of a page is in itself a celebration of this relationship in all its fabulous complexity.

By Bethanne Kelly Patrick, The Book Maven

“Once upon a time, a Pride Book List might have been filled with design books and dour tomes about hard political times. No more — with continued progress towards acceptance of all sexual orientations and lifestyles has led to more and better books published that deal with all aspects of gay and lesbian life. Sure, Scott & Scott’s romance novels like ‘Hot Sauce’ are getting a lot of attention now, but the titles we’ve chosen offer a bit more breadth — not quite A to Zed, but at least A through M — a lot more fun; take a peek!: N is for NICE: ‘Behind Every Great Woman There’s a Fabulous Gay Man: Advice From a Guy Who Gives It to You Straight’ by Dave Singleton is proof that sometimes, nice guys do finish first: Singleton has written a warm, witty and useful book that will give even women without a gay boyfriend the chance to benefit from the advice of one. Check back tomorrow for my Q&A with Singleton, too!

Behind Every Great Woman is proof that sometimes, nice guys do finish first: Singleton has written a warm, witty and useful book.”

“Witty, entertaining, razor-sharp and uncompromisingly direct. ‘Think Queer Eye meets The Fabulous Girl’s Guide to Life with the wit and appeal of Sex in the City. It’s already become a word-of-mouth hit.'”